Hi i’m Lisa some call me lee lee let me share with you a quick story about an experince I had as a sidechick. I knew he had a wife, I not only knew but for what it’s worth I respected his marriage. I knew exactly what I was getting myself into. For the first few months I didn’t have a desire to know who his wife was or what she looked like, me and his dealings had nothing to do with her (at least I thought). We had our times and days and that worked out fine for me until one day Marcel my childhood Bestfriend stopped by for some girl time. And As we were talking and laughing out of nowhere she got quiet And looked me dead in my face with her phone in her hand and asked “ So after all this time you don’t want to at least see what she looks like?”
Now it’s only been 6 months and even though that’s not a long time, technically it felt like a few years. At this point yeah I like him but I like what he does for me even more. I’m pretty secure in what we have going on and him being married doesn’t bother me or intimidate me, so why not? What harm would it really do?
I looked back at Marcel and said “show me the wife”. She handed me her phone and there she was, her entire IG profile. Honestly we kind of favored which was weird, I guess in my mind I thought we would be totally opposite. She was beautiful, her body amazing and her super womanly energy emerging through the pictures on her IG page.
I found myself for the next few months stalking his wife, looking at her profile every time the thought ran across my mind. I also became more attached to him, like I said before I liked him but I liked what he did for me more. But now every since I’ve been on her page it’s like I wanted him more and more.
Day in day out all I could think about was her. Analyzing her style what type of person she might be. How sex between them was. The thoughts about her that went through my mind I could never tell my girls; they would think I was nuts.
Me and his connection was getting stronger and stronger, for him anyways. Everything was good until one day he said he needed to talk to me. What he was about to say not only did I not expect it but I didn’t know it would have such and affect on me either and or us.
He told me that him and his wife separated and that she left him. Now, As a certified side chick I was suppose to be happy right? Well I was pissed. What do you mean y’all separated? Y’all getting back together right? I looked him in his face and said you better fix this. He got up to hug me and said “ this is perfect right, we can finally be together.” I was furious I said “Be together” are you kidding me?
This little love affair we had only lasted two months after him and her seperated. it was like because the wife was gone I was no longer interested in him. But then it hit me My feelings for him grew strong once I saw her so this whole time it’s wasn’t him my obsession was with her and now that she is no longer in the picture neither do I want to be.
I think the biggest misconception is that all side chicks desire to eventually be the main chick and that just isn’t always true.